So many times in our lives, we can really get wrapped up in ourselves. For the most part, I don’t see anything wrong with that. We need to get wrapped in ourselves in order to stay healthy and fit, reach our career goals and provide for our family, and to just be better person so we can be better lovers, parents and friends. But it should never be at the detriment of our relationships. Be it our relationships with our spouses or our kids, we need to take the time to show them that we are interested in what they are interested in. This is great for a better family dynamic. At times, I am guilty of this too, we only show interest and attention to the things that are interesting to us as well. The things that we don’t care about but the other person really cares about fall by the wayside. But it is important to show interest (even if it is a little) to let them know that you care. The reason why I say this is because when the other person feels you don’t care or they can’t share something that is important to them with you then that opens the door to problems that you don’t want in a relationship/marriage.
Temptation is real to in any marriage and relationship. The key is to stay involved in your significant other’s life. This can be difficult because life presents routines, obligations, finances, problems, etc. It can and IS a hard balance. Most times for me, I am just trying to keep my head above water, especially now. Being supportive goes a looooong way in a relationship. It builds loyalty and from loyalty comes a strong, unbreakable bond. Support is more than words too. It is way more than you saying “you can do it” or “I support you”. It is actions. It is actually going to events/games, it is working out with them, it is reading their columns, it is being a participant in whatever they are doing. It can be hurtful to someone who feels that they are always in the backseat to whatever you are doing and their own spouse doesn’t even support them. This can lead to resentment or for the other person to seek out someone that shows interest in what they do. We must shield our relationship from temptations….
So remember to always show interest in your spouse and preserve your marriage from outside factors.
Till Next Time……support is more than just the words!