As a woman and/or a mom, we spend so much time motivating our kids and/or spouses, pushing them to see their full potential, that we often times forget about ourselves. What makes us who we are? Now, a lot of who we are, when we make the transition in to motherhood or wifey-hood, is in the title. There is nothing wrong with that. But it is not all we are. And in my opinion shouldn’t be. If we make our whole life about our kids, what will we be left of us when they are grown? I am finding out that our kids truly grow up fast. I know I heard that so much growing up, but now I see it with children of my own. And besides that, would our spouses want us to be ALL about them ALL the time? Well, I don’t think so but I could be wrong…I am not a man. So what is it about you, that makes you “YOU”? What is your passion or what makes you tick? What is it that people are going to say about you when you die? (I know that is a little morbid but true). What is Legen….wait for it….dary in your life?
I wanted to write this post because so many of us day dream or think about doing something(s) great, but we leave the idea(s) in our head. For me, motivation to do great things and having a sense of identity is outside myself. It is in my daughter. I look at her and I want to her to know that in life all things are possible. I want her to have her own identity. The best way for her to know that is through me living that way. Especially in a society where media seems to determines one’s identity. Living it is essential.
Finding out what is going to make us unique and legendary is not only good for our kids to see, but for our sanity as well. It is easy to lose sight of who we are when we are always doing for everyone else. Just because you do things for yourself and your sanity, doesn’t make you a bad mother. It is just the opposite. Why is it that if you have a child, you are supposed to forget about who you are, neglect your health and appearance? I sometimes catch flack for taking time for myself or going to the gym. To some, it is considered selfish. Everyone is entitled to his or her opinion. In my opinion, this goes back to media deeming mommies as being less than and not deserving of certain things. Sometimes I watch TV and mommies have this stigma of their life being over. So not true! We can still dream and push for what we want out of life. Live not only for our kids, but for ourselves as well.
Here are a few suggestions to keep you being you…
1. Make a bucket list.
2. Keep a journal
3. Set a personal goal every month
4. Hit the gym (obviously)
5. Network for inspiration
Till Next Time……..What is going to (or does) make you legendary?